I've been in that thought train before, and I don't have kids. When I think of my future parent self, I want to try to walk the thin line of granting advantage

I've been in that thought train before, and I don't have kids. When I think of my future parent self, I want to try to walk the thin line of granting advantages to my kids without coddling them. It's easy to fall into this trap, where the kid seems to think only the nice things in life are worthwhile. I think most people would end up more resilient if they didn't think this way. However, I know how the world works, and it loves to reward those whom have already been given much. So, the goal is to have shiny things so you can get more. It's disgusting, really. I hate that I'm complicit in it all. Really just want to quit all the stupidity.