Humans are incredibly dynamic organisms. They can adapt to such a wide range of circumstances. You are going to go on a journey in the next few years. The preg

Humans are incredibly dynamic organisms. They can adapt to such a wide range of circumstances. You are going to go on a journey in the next few years. The pregnancy is a step in the journey. Your wife will change physically, emotionally, and cognitively. You will adjust to that. When the child arrives, you will suddenly find that you are no longer responsible for yourself but that there is this other helpless being that depends on you. You will adapt to that. You will find that your wife needs you more than ever. It's just one baby, you might think, but it is a huge burden and she shouldn't have to shoulder it alone. You will have to put friendships and career aspirations aside momentarily, but you will adapt to that as well. Who you are now is a different person than who you will become and so you shouldn't try to optimize for your life 2 years ahead because it is something you can't really picture now. -- I've been through it (with twins) recently. Let me know if you want someone to chat with or even just to vent. Both of those are healthy given the stresses you are facing.