I was in a similar situation recently. Was at my job for just over a year. Came in, noticed development practices were lagging (and this is the kindest term I c

I was in a similar situation recently. Was at my job for just over a year. Came in, noticed development practices were lagging (and this is the kindest term I can use). Tried, with the support of leadership, to bring the team forward, ever-so slowly, but it only resulted in more backlash. These people were deeply entrenched, not looking for change, and certainly not from the younger (early 30's here) newcomer. I came to loathe coming to work. I'm not at the stage of my career yet where I'm able to willingly dial down my productivity just to "fit in". On top of this, my wife was pregnant (much further along than yours). What did I do? Once the baby arrived and we knew it was healthy, I quit. I've been freelancing since then and am 10x happier. I make significantly more in an hourly basis and have much more time to spend with my wife and son. I have different risk levels from your situation though. I live in Canada (free healthcare) and in a medium-sized city (relatively low cost of living). I'm still on good terms with the management team from my old employer (they know and acknowledge the difficulties I encountered as real barriers; they just didn't take decisive actions IMHO) and they've told me the job is mine if I ever want to return. I know this may not be a realistic option for you, but the overall thing I've learned through this process is that what may seem like a really big risk at first glance, becomes apparently much less risky the more you think about it in a calm and rational manner. If you're good at what you do, and it sounds like you are, jobs are easy to find.