The non-tin-foil response is about check-your-privilege. You might happen to be lucky to be in the less vulnerable, less suspicious group today, but there are r

The non-tin-foil response is about check-your-privilege. You might happen to be lucky to be in the less vulnerable, less suspicious group today, but there are regular innocent folks who are targeted for all sorts of reasons. But blatantly, nearly every person who comes face-to-face with visceral awareness of loss of their privacy will care. If you have an actual peeping Tom looking in your windows, you care very much, even if you know they are from the NSA and not just some random creep. Real basic emotional awareness of loss of privacy completely changes how we behave and feel. All your wife is really saying is that it's all too abstract for her — she doesn't really feel like her privacy is lost.