Your argument could apply to a book too; why should an author NOT be able to veto whenever a copy of his work changes hands, or gets lent to a library or ends u

Your argument could apply to a book too; why should an author NOT be able to veto whenever a copy of his work changes hands, or gets lent to a library or ends up in a second-hand bookshop? But the law of copyright is clear when it comes to physical goods. The consumer has rights too, and one of those rights is to treat physical copies of copyrighted works the same way as normal everyday physical items. It's one of the limitations that society has seen fit to impose on the rights of copyright holders; in exchange for their monopoly on the right to make copies of their works, the customers get the right to borrow, lend, resell or otherwise alienate themselves of the product. You'll find the doctrine called 'exhaustion of rights' or 'first sale', and in US Law, it's to be found in 17 USC 109. What's happening here is that with the internet switched on and the mass trade in digital goods, the copyright holders have been spending years making the analogies with physical goods that require capital and cost money to reproduce ('You wouldn't download a car') and now the physical items analogy is being applied to the rights that everyone else has too.