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As a misanthrope, I'm probably screwed. The ideal is to make enough money to not have to deal with people, other than a very select few.

dreamfactory2 12y ago
Far far easier (and more rewarding as it goes) to learn to like people.
- 6d0debc071 12y ago
  How?
  - ernst 12y ago
    Tao Te Ching http://taotechingdecoded.com/TbM/0100.html http://taotechingdecoded.com/TbM/0100.html
- thejdude 12y ago
  I think you can easily learn to accept people, but really really liking them is a lot harder. Most people I meet don't have the same interests as I do, and many are also very shallow that I really don't want to hang out with them. Call me misantrophic, or just experienced ;-) The more people I get to know, the more I think "what's the point?"
  - dreamfactory2 12y ago
    I think it's starts with being interested in them. Travelling may help.
    - thejdude 12y ago
      It started with being interested, but as I said, the more people I meet, the more I'm just bored by them. Travelling didn't help at all. Yes, nots of friendly people, but also lots of aggravating tourist assholes (interestingly, I find American travelers to be very nice, but many Australian or English travelers seem to be assholes, maybe just the ones I met?). Also, too many rugged, handsome, self-absorbed, sunburnt surfer types who play the guitar, are full of themselves, and generally very opportunistic and shallow in how they deal with people. Just can't take them seriously, as they don't seem to take anybody seriously.
- gravedave 12y ago
  Disagree. I find it difficult and unrewarding. Like, why should I give a shit about another human? Would it make me that much smarter or better in any tangible way? Don't think so. Frankly, I'm having a hard time thinking of a single person in my life that I would rather not go on without.
  - damon_c 12y ago
    It sounds like you might benefit from a change in environment. Maybe you don't have the right people in your life.
  - sscalia 12y ago
    lololololol
  - dreamfactory2 12y ago
    > Would it make me that much smarter or better in any tangible way? If you think life is about you, you are guaranteed to find it difficult and unrewarding.
fred_durst 12y ago
I mean this in the most genuine way possible, but you can never be around people for dirt cheap. If you could save up 50k you could by a house in the middle of nowhere for 20k, invest the rest to bring in a couple hundred dollars a month and work online to cover the rest of your expenses. Or become a cross country truck driver part of the year. Etc etc. There are tons of very easy ways to never be around anyone. You are probably just addicted to the internet and it has caused you to not be able learn the right social skills to enjoy the people around you so you just attach to some idea that you are some "misanthrope". It's like alcoholics that believe they just naturally depressed people when its really just the alcohol. Like I said, I mean this in the best way possible, but you probably have an internet addiction that is stunting your social growth. You might want to try something like take 1 month and never go online. Get a flip phone and cancel your internet for a month just to find out. And if what I just said about going without a smartphone and internet at home for a month sounds impossible, then that's probably the proof you have an addiction.
- KhalilK 12y ago
  http://www.99daysoffreedom.com/ http://www.99daysoffreedom.com/
- nitrogen 12y ago
  Your algorithm for detecting addiction seems it would have a very high false positive rate. Consider this restatement: Like I said, I mean this in the best way possible, but you probably have an air addiction that is stunting your social growth. You might want to try something like take 1 month and never breathe. Stop breathing for a month just to find out. And if what I just said about going without air at home for a month sounds impossible, then that's probably the proof you have an addiction.
  - marvy 12y ago
    There is one problem with your restatement. Breathing, even non-stop hyperventilation, does not interfere much with other activities, so it's hard to imagine how it could stunt social growth. Aside from that, it is of course true: everyone is in some sense "addicted" to breathing, though it might be more accurate to say that air is an essential nutrient.

dreamfactory2 12y ago

Far far easier (and more rewarding as it goes) to learn to like people.

6d0debc071 12y ago
How?
- ernst 12y ago
  Tao Te Ching http://taotechingdecoded.com/TbM/0100.html http://taotechingdecoded.com/TbM/0100.html
thejdude 12y ago
I think you can easily learn to accept people, but really really liking them is a lot harder. Most people I meet don't have the same interests as I do, and many are also very shallow that I really don't want to hang out with them. Call me misantrophic, or just experienced ;-) The more people I get to know, the more I think "what's the point?"
- dreamfactory2 12y ago
  I think it's starts with being interested in them. Travelling may help.
  - thejdude 12y ago
    It started with being interested, but as I said, the more people I meet, the more I'm just bored by them. Travelling didn't help at all. Yes, nots of friendly people, but also lots of aggravating tourist assholes (interestingly, I find American travelers to be very nice, but many Australian or English travelers seem to be assholes, maybe just the ones I met?). Also, too many rugged, handsome, self-absorbed, sunburnt surfer types who play the guitar, are full of themselves, and generally very opportunistic and shallow in how they deal with people. Just can't take them seriously, as they don't seem to take anybody seriously.
gravedave 12y ago
Disagree. I find it difficult and unrewarding. Like, why should I give a shit about another human? Would it make me that much smarter or better in any tangible way? Don't think so. Frankly, I'm having a hard time thinking of a single person in my life that I would rather not go on without.
- damon_c 12y ago
  It sounds like you might benefit from a change in environment. Maybe you don't have the right people in your life.
- sscalia 12y ago
  lololololol
- dreamfactory2 12y ago
  > Would it make me that much smarter or better in any tangible way? If you think life is about you, you are guaranteed to find it difficult and unrewarding.

fred_durst 12y ago

I mean this in the most genuine way possible, but you can never be around people for dirt cheap. If you could save up 50k you could by a house in the middle of nowhere for 20k, invest the rest to bring in a couple hundred dollars a month and work online to cover the rest of your expenses. Or become a cross country truck driver part of the year. Etc etc. There are tons of very easy ways to never be around anyone. You are probably just addicted to the internet and it has caused you to not be able learn the right social skills to enjoy the people around you so you just attach to some idea that you are some "misanthrope". It's like alcoholics that believe they just naturally depressed people when its really just the alcohol. Like I said, I mean this in the best way possible, but you probably have an internet addiction that is stunting your social growth. You might want to try something like take 1 month and never go online. Get a flip phone and cancel your internet for a month just to find out. And if what I just said about going without a smartphone and internet at home for a month sounds impossible, then that's probably the proof you have an addiction.

KhalilK 12y ago
http://www.99daysoffreedom.com/ http://www.99daysoffreedom.com/
nitrogen 12y ago
Your algorithm for detecting addiction seems it would have a very high false positive rate. Consider this restatement: Like I said, I mean this in the best way possible, but you probably have an air addiction that is stunting your social growth. You might want to try something like take 1 month and never breathe. Stop breathing for a month just to find out. And if what I just said about going without air at home for a month sounds impossible, then that's probably the proof you have an addiction.
- marvy 12y ago
  There is one problem with your restatement. Breathing, even non-stop hyperventilation, does not interfere much with other activities, so it's hard to imagine how it could stunt social growth. Aside from that, it is of course true: everyone is in some sense "addicted" to breathing, though it might be more accurate to say that air is an essential nutrient.