I'd say if each of those two people had the "bad experience" of having their only child killed in a car accident, that's worse than someone else having his uncl

I'd say if each of those two people had the "bad experience" of having their only child killed in a car accident, that's worse than someone else having his uncle and grandmother killed in a car accident. "Bad experience" is hugely oversimplified. And just not start about a trillion specs of dust in a trillion people.