>How to be more zen about this situation Worry about the things that you can control and ignore the things that you can't control. The things you can't contro

>How to be more zen about this situation Worry about the things that you can control and ignore the things that you can't control. The things you can't control is how your coworker and supervisor will behave. Can you control their behavior? If not, then why worry about it and get stressed about it. You can't change people. Your coworker has been there from the start, so he has the rapport and line of communication you don't and most probably will never unless your coworker falters or you move into a different group/project where you can shine on your own. You will likely lose a head-on battle. The things you can control is your reaction to your coworker and supervisor behavior, working on this job, working for this company, etc. So decide, how do you want to react? Complain, whine, hope for the best or quit. If you want to stay at the company, why not make friends with this coworker? Improve your personal relationship with him. You might then be able to influence his behavior. Arguing, complaining, escalating wouldn't take you far except out the door.