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Oh I can actually help with this, same age range too I just hit 26, no kids etc I think if you go travelling you'll end up repeating bad habits in each new pla
by Tarks 12y ago
Oh I can actually help with this, same age range too I just hit 26, no kids etc
I think if you go travelling you'll end up repeating bad habits in each new place because you haven't changed anything about yourself.
I don't like giving advice so I'll just talk about what's worked for me :)
In the last 3 months I got to contract for Microsoft, which meant leaving my apartment and GF in London and having a place rented in Reading.
I'd intended to play a ton of games in the evenings but the internet connection there was terrible, dropped every 3 mins. I took this as an opportunity to do something else and learn a game in real life :p Plus I was a little out of shape and wanted to fix that and make some non-work friends. For me I picked Squash because it's a really demanding game of a competitive nature but it's also easy to practice on your own so I wouldn't be as embarrassed when I played with others.
I did research etc and spent just under a month in the evenings training on my own, then I joined the social squash sessions and later on the league. It's a ton of fun and when you're in friendly competition you naturally gel with peeps. You meet lots of different people too, I ended up building a site for a chem engineer who was setting up his own company.
The funny thing is not only did I make more friends through squash, but because you have something (non-nerdy, I could talk anyone's ear off about dev stuff or DOTA/Street Fighter etc but not everyone is open-minded enough to appreciate my nerdier facets :P) that you can chat about with other people you meet you find they're just generally more interested in you because passion is attractive, even in a platonic sense.
I did other things too but they aren't as pertinent to your situation, like starting to go to the gym with people I liked on my team, learning to ride a motorbike etc, all of which have made me a much more fulfilled person, all of which I wouldn't of even started doing if I hadn't of picked up that first activity.
This may sound a bit touchy feely but looking back, I think what was making me unhappy was that I didn't love myself. That sounds strange but as soon as I started improving and finding my groove everything else was a heck of a lot easier. You sound the same, you're trying to reach for something to change your circumstances and travel is an obvious first manifestation for that, but I'd suggest changing yourself first and seeing if that makes you happy.
You're lucky, you're looking for what to do next and you have few things to stop you going in any direction. You're standing on the precipice of you becoming a more awesome person :)