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Your observation of kids blaming events or people for their 'bad' feeling, when they are actually hungry or tired is spot on. However this kind of causal relati
by Confusion 12y ago
Your observation of kids blaming events or people for their 'bad' feeling, when they are actually hungry or tired is spot on. However this kind of causal relationship exists in far more subtle and extensive ways and stays operational all your life! Examples from research: judges give harsher sentences right before lunch vs. right after lunch. You are less willing to help others when you are cold. The list goes on and on.
Your kids becoming 'more logical and more consistent' is only them becoming so good at rationalizing and explaining their rationalization that you believe them. In fact it is still being hungry that made them lash out.
- mercer 12y agoI am absolutely terrible at noticing when I rationalize things in this way, and I think a big cause of it is that I spend most of my day stuck in a world of ideas and abstractions that keep me from even feeling hunger sometimes. Working on balancing that out is what I consider one of my primary challenges as I enter my thirties. I hear meditation can help, but does anyone here have any other tips?