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Ask HN: How did you find your mentor?
This question has been asked several times here, but I could not find a satisfactory reply to this. I am really at a low of my life and would like to reboot. I don't feel much confidence in my decisions and hence need a mentor to help me think and get guidance.
How did you find your mentor?
- relaunched 12y agoThis is such a hard place to be...but, we've all been there. First off, it's a lot like dating. What do you have to offer a mentor? Why should they give you their time, which is often their most precious resource. With me, I like brazen audacity, intellect and a bias for action. If you are smart, doing things, bold and generally have infectious energy, come talk to me. If there's anything I can do to help, I probably will. If you are at a low, it's kinda depressing. I will probably listen to you, give some advice and move on. If you start making progress, I might re-engage, but maybe not. Work on you and you'll attract people to you. It's a vicious cycle, but start taking small steps to improve your low and good things will happen. Good luck!
- vitalyny 12y agoIn my experience, the only thing that helps in this case is to change people around you. If you're into startups, go to startup events, meet people there. If you're into travelling - join some group trip. New experience and new friends will boost your energy. And never forget to take care of yourself, eat healthy food, exercise etc.
- sidcool 12y agoThanks for your response. In my current role, I have to do a lot of management work (I have 8 years of experience in all) and I dislike it. I like helping people with their technical doubts, but I hate when someone cribs about their team mates. I will definitely follow your advice, thanks.