You are arguing (or you were already in the last comment) that there is something 'wrong' with humans which is the reason that we have been unable to see aliens

You are arguing (or you were already in the last comment) that there is something 'wrong' with humans which is the reason that we have been unable to see aliens. I think this is a much stronger argument. As far as I can see, this line of reasoning only requires making two arguments about aliens: they are at most Kardashev Type II and they are not actively broadcasting their existence using EM waves. I don't buy your arguments about memories of probes/ciz at all. I am extrapolating from human civilization. We haven't forgotten much and plan on remembering everything in the future.