Ask HN: Where Does The Have Ruby/Rails Community Have Discussions?

I've been using Ruby for several years, and like a lot of you it has become my language of choice due to the developer happiness factor. At my job, and with side projects I'm the "expert" and I'm become increasingly frustrated trying to find a place online to ask and have discussions about design approaches, and language features with ruby/rails that are more than trivial. It seems that everything revolves around gem specific questions in github and stackoverflow. The ruby and rails subreddits are pretty low traffic and discussions die off quickly, and reddit itself doesn't lend itself to terribly insightful disucssions. IRC is of course very hit of miss, and Twitter is essentially the same way at this point, velocity is just too much. Am I missing somewhere obvious, or has the ruby-writing community grown to the point where most people have a colleague/friend to talk to directly and online discussions have slowed?