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“The type of person who is attracted to these jobs and thus to the Seattle area seems to be a socially awkward, emotionally stunted, sheltered, strangely entitl

“The type of person who is attracted to these jobs and thus to the Seattle area seems to be a socially awkward, emotionally stunted, sheltered, strangely entitled, and/or a misogynistic individual,” she wrote in an email. I'm impressed by the lack of self-awareness displayed in that statement. There's a saying that if everyone around you looks like an asshole, then it's probably you who is the asshole. I feel as though it applies here.

6d0debc071 12y ago
You don't know what her friends and dating life have looked like.
- vezzy-fnord 12y ago
  Indeed, I do not. That does not make the article any less obnoxious and narcissistic, however. It reads like the musings of a lonely and alienated person dissatisfied with the world around them and with delusions of entitlement. If that sounds familiar to a subculture that was the subject of extensive debate over a recent tragedy, well, it is.
  - 6d0debc071 12y ago
    The part you quoted was someone, in an email, writing about what they'd like in a man and how that had lined up with their experience of the local dating scene at the moment. Of course that's going to come across as her wanting something, she does. Whether she was claiming that everything was great or everything was terrible that would remain inherent to the nature of the piece: we've all got our preferences. I'm sure a lot of men don't want massively fat women for example, and if that's honestly how they feel that's fine. No-one's got the right to tell you who you ought to be attracted to. Was she lonely? Yeah, probably. Was she alienated? To a degree, yeah - from the dating scene she'd like to be part of. Was she dissatisfied? Yes. And all those things are normal and okay when your preferences aren't met. Is she entitled? Yes, to an extent. Pretty much everyone is. We let someone through in traffic and we consider it rude if they don't wave back, we hold the door open for someone we expect them to thank us. When you grow up with a culture you come to expect a certain action reaction transaction - what you might call grace or good manners. But it doesn't seem to me that she was being abnormally entitled based on the fact she thought it odd for someone to ask that she read Neuromancer before they'd go on a date with her.
wlesieutre 12y ago
Hell, the article's subtitle doesn't start it off any better: The tech boom in Seattle is bringing in droves of successful, straight single guys. And as any woman will tell you: You don't want to date any of them. Or to paraphrase, I am the arbiter of all dating preferences, and anyone who works at Amazon is terrible and undatable. My opinion is a fact and all women agree with it. Normally I'd write that off as an attention-grabbing opener, but the rest of the article is about as nuanced. I'd bet a large pile of money on Seattle having plenty of people who are thrilled to the crowds of single programmer-types moving into the city.

6d0debc071 12y ago

You don't know what her friends and dating life have looked like.

vezzy-fnord 12y ago
Indeed, I do not. That does not make the article any less obnoxious and narcissistic, however. It reads like the musings of a lonely and alienated person dissatisfied with the world around them and with delusions of entitlement. If that sounds familiar to a subculture that was the subject of extensive debate over a recent tragedy, well, it is.
- 6d0debc071 12y ago
  The part you quoted was someone, in an email, writing about what they'd like in a man and how that had lined up with their experience of the local dating scene at the moment. Of course that's going to come across as her wanting something, she does. Whether she was claiming that everything was great or everything was terrible that would remain inherent to the nature of the piece: we've all got our preferences. I'm sure a lot of men don't want massively fat women for example, and if that's honestly how they feel that's fine. No-one's got the right to tell you who you ought to be attracted to. Was she lonely? Yeah, probably. Was she alienated? To a degree, yeah - from the dating scene she'd like to be part of. Was she dissatisfied? Yes. And all those things are normal and okay when your preferences aren't met. Is she entitled? Yes, to an extent. Pretty much everyone is. We let someone through in traffic and we consider it rude if they don't wave back, we hold the door open for someone we expect them to thank us. When you grow up with a culture you come to expect a certain action reaction transaction - what you might call grace or good manners. But it doesn't seem to me that she was being abnormally entitled based on the fact she thought it odd for someone to ask that she read Neuromancer before they'd go on a date with her.

wlesieutre 12y ago

Hell, the article's subtitle doesn't start it off any better: The tech boom in Seattle is bringing in droves of successful, straight single guys. And as any woman will tell you: You don't want to date any of them. Or to paraphrase, I am the arbiter of all dating preferences, and anyone who works at Amazon is terrible and undatable. My opinion is a fact and all women agree with it. Normally I'd write that off as an attention-grabbing opener, but the rest of the article is about as nuanced. I'd bet a large pile of money on Seattle having plenty of people who are thrilled to the crowds of single programmer-types moving into the city.