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Even from this angle it sounds like you were trying to hit on this person. For some reason paying for food with the opposite sex is seen as courtship behavior.
by astine 17y ago
Even from this angle it sounds like you were trying to hit on this person. For some reason paying for food with the opposite sex is seen as courtship behavior. Try it with a (straight) man and see if he thinks that you are hitting on him. With amusing exceptions, its unlikely that he'll take offense.
- blhack 17y agoWell...the thing is that I normally DO pay for my male friends. If I call them up and say ask them to go out, they're usually all broke (mostly students). I'll pay because, to me, its worth the extra few bucks to have somebody to drink with... (or are you saying that people are just being irrational? Your last sentence makes me believe so.)
- astine 17y agoWell...the thing is that I normally DO pay for my male friends. Then you know exaclty what I'm talking about. My point is that gestures can mean different things when performed for men and for women. There's nothing irrational about it.
- patio11 17y agoI was once friend-zoned by a young lady I was interested in, and got to listen to a whole lot of talk about other guys. In particular, there was one gentleman that got upset with her because he thought she was, quote, leading him on. "Mary, what do you do with him?" "Oh, movies, dinner, that sort of thing." "Who pays for these?" "He does." "And he says you're leading him on?" "Yeah, what's up with that?" "That's because you're leading him on." Some time later I realized that Mary (not her real name) had a persistent habit of using people, and I began spending my time with people who did not value me solely for what I could do for them.