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>Is there anything wrong with young people staying at home for longer? Well, one of the reasons is that oftentimes this ends up being a crutch. Little reason t

>Is there anything wrong with young people staying at home for longer? Well, one of the reasons is that oftentimes this ends up being a crutch. Little reason to take any chances, or really apply yourself when you can tell yourself that mom & dad will bail you out. Of course, not everyone is like this; some people have the necessary drive (and resources) to kick ass right out of high-school. But many don't realize their true potential until they're forced to do so.

aianus 12y ago
Realistically, who's going to tell their somewhat lazy underachieving child to get out and go to a homeless shelter or park bench?
- TheCraiggers 12y ago
  >Realistically, who's going to tell their somewhat lazy underachieving child to get out and go to a homeless shelter or park bench? Please don't strawman me. At no point did I say we should kick kids out of the house with nothing, nor not allow them back under their parents' wing when they fail. It's absolutely silly (in normal circumstances) to force your kid to live at a homeless shelter when you have the resources to help them back on their feet. But I feel it's important to do so in a manner than encourages independence, rather than encouraging dependance. After all, the parents won't be around forever- sooner or later the kid(s) will need to be self-sufficient enough to survive without that safety net. What I said was in response to the parent's question of "is there anything wrong with letting kids stay at home longer". That's all.
  - aianus 12y ago
    How do you do that without a credible threat of kicking them out on the street? I'm serious. I don't pay rent to my landlord because I feel like being independent, I do it because otherwise he'll evict me.
jiggy2011 12y ago
If you live at home you can afford to take more chances. You can start a business with less worries of having to cover extortionate rent every month which is something that keeps many people in their 9-5.
- TheCraiggers 12y ago
  I totally agree with you. But there is a big difference between living at home so you can get your business off the ground, and living at home so you can more easily afford your video game hobby. All I'm saying is that the world isn't black-and-white. Parents need to make the judgement call about what is best for their child. Sometimes that's letting them stay at home to build up resources. Sometimes it's forcing them out to let them learn and develop themselves. Sometimes it's probably something between the two, like charging rent.
  - vonmoltke 12y ago
    > I totally agree with you. But there is a big difference between living at home so you can get your business off the ground, and living at home so you can more easily afford your video game hobby. Or so that you can afford the rent-sized payment on your student loan debt.

aianus 12y ago

Realistically, who's going to tell their somewhat lazy underachieving child to get out and go to a homeless shelter or park bench?

TheCraiggers 12y ago
>Realistically, who's going to tell their somewhat lazy underachieving child to get out and go to a homeless shelter or park bench? Please don't strawman me. At no point did I say we should kick kids out of the house with nothing, nor not allow them back under their parents' wing when they fail. It's absolutely silly (in normal circumstances) to force your kid to live at a homeless shelter when you have the resources to help them back on their feet. But I feel it's important to do so in a manner than encourages independence, rather than encouraging dependance. After all, the parents won't be around forever- sooner or later the kid(s) will need to be self-sufficient enough to survive without that safety net. What I said was in response to the parent's question of "is there anything wrong with letting kids stay at home longer". That's all.
- aianus 12y ago
  How do you do that without a credible threat of kicking them out on the street? I'm serious. I don't pay rent to my landlord because I feel like being independent, I do it because otherwise he'll evict me.

jiggy2011 12y ago

If you live at home you can afford to take more chances. You can start a business with less worries of having to cover extortionate rent every month which is something that keeps many people in their 9-5.

TheCraiggers 12y ago
I totally agree with you. But there is a big difference between living at home so you can get your business off the ground, and living at home so you can more easily afford your video game hobby. All I'm saying is that the world isn't black-and-white. Parents need to make the judgement call about what is best for their child. Sometimes that's letting them stay at home to build up resources. Sometimes it's forcing them out to let them learn and develop themselves. Sometimes it's probably something between the two, like charging rent.
- vonmoltke 12y ago
  > I totally agree with you. But there is a big difference between living at home so you can get your business off the ground, and living at home so you can more easily afford your video game hobby. Or so that you can afford the rent-sized payment on your student loan debt.