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It's a fine line between doing a nice gesture for a friend simply because you want to and doing it for an acquaintance in order to earn favor. If you're the le
by edw519 17y ago
It's a fine line between doing a nice gesture for a friend simply because you want to and doing it for an acquaintance in order to earn favor. If you're the least bit phony, it will show and it will backfire. Sounds like your friend was the real deal. Good for him and good for you!
- jonknee 17y agoIf I am going to be around a phony person I'd rather get a sandwich out of it than not. Since the act of buying lunch doesn't actually make someone phony, I don't see a downside.
- eoyola 17y agoIn this case, how do you know the act isn't phony? If you know that person is sometimes phony, you'll be left wondering whether anything they do for you is insincere, including buying lunch. I couldn't accept it if I smell something off about their intentions.
- jonknee 17y agoI think there are worse things than a lunch paid for someone who is insincere (such as having to pay for lunch with someone who is insincere). It's not really worth worrying about to me actually.
- DannoHung 17y agoSeems a little too concerned with earnestness for my taste. All non-pathological human interaction is based upon establishing relationships that are beneficial to at least one party. So what if someone wants to curry some favor with me? If it's a nice enough lunch maybe they've earned it!