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Wow, guy. Lots of really negative assumptions there. As I posted elsewhere on this thread, there is no substitute for genuinely caring for others. Personally,
by JohnBooty 12y ago
Wow, guy. Lots of really negative assumptions there.
As I posted elsewhere on this thread, there is no substitute for genuinely caring for others.
Personally, I'm known for being quite outgoing and friendly. Probably because I genuinely care about people. I don't need these kinds of guides or an "easy way out."
But clearly, there are many people in the world who need help in this area.
And for them, I wish there was something more positive than the PUA thing.
- normloman 12y agoDidn't mean you specifically. Meant "you" in the general sense. Should have said "We want something that doesn't exist." As in we all do. Sorry for getting personal. Anyhow the sort of person who needs pick up artist techniques to make friends needs a lot more help than a book can provide.
- JohnBooty 12y agoI think we both agree that genuine empathy and sympathy for others (and, crucially, expressing those things) are at the core of a healthy human relationship. For some of us, that's very intuitive, so the idea of learning it from a book can seem silly. For others, maybe not? We can say that these people need "more help than a book can provide" but... breaking things down into manageable steps for people is also a pretty big part of professional therapy as well. I was a nice but very socially awkward kid (way weirder than the average kid) and I eventually learned how to sociable as I went through my teenage years and early 20s. [1] So I always think other people can learn too. At least to some extent. ------ [1] Luckily the PUA thing didn't even exist back then, so I didn't go that route!)