Life is an RPG, play it. Grind your stats. Strength: Find an activity you enjoy that also gets you active. Rock climbing, biking, golf, ultimate frisbee, kite

Life is an RPG, play it. Grind your stats. Strength: Find an activity you enjoy that also gets you active. Rock climbing, biking, golf, ultimate frisbee, kite flying. Something you love doing solo. Wisdom: When I'm learning a new language, I watch shows with English subtitles so that I can hear word usage. If you can find a kids show you can tolerate, it's better because you get a bit simpler sentence structure. So watch our TV with subtitles you understand fluently. Also read in English, fiction or non-fiction but nothing technical, start with kids' books, work your way up. Read with a dictionary at your side and look up every word you don't know. Set alarms on your phone and email if you need to be reminded to turn off the computer and go outside. Also try siteblocking everything that isn't essential to life. Charisma: It can be easier to speak openly when you're not facing the other person. Sitting or walking or riding bikes side by side, you don't have to focus on their physical cues as much, and you can chat casually. One thing that PUA's do that's valuable is grinding out that part of your brain that worries about what other people think. Just grind it the fuck out, have conversations and fail. If you're weird, let the weirdness show. Dexterity: Women like a man who's good with his hands. Building skill in something physical - carving wood, a sport, magic tricks - builds confidence. Intelligence: You're an engineer, so engineer your way out of this. Don't overthink every moment, but hack your social functions. Try to notice the subconscious rules you operate on, if you have the money talk to a therapist for a few sessions. It can be very helpful to have an intelligent and objective expert point out your blind spots to you so you can work on them and balance for them.