Inception anyway I read a lil more in your doc and just wanted to share my "stack". Or how I approach people. Generally it's a comment on what they have. But

Inception anyway I read a lil more in your doc and just wanted to share my "stack". Or how I approach people. Generally it's a comment on what they have. But I usually go up to a girl and: Me: "You have really nice hair." Girl: Thanks! Me: How's your day going? So eventually opening isn't really bad it's the middle part. I started out with interview question. How's your day? What are you up to? Yeah I know very boring but doing this enough time you'll eventually figure out how to make it not boring. The thing is you're trying to find subjects that they want to talk about or that you guys "connect". One approach is cold read. Which is you're not from around here? Or you're... Chinese. Guessing their ethnicity. It's fun. With this in mind you can go into subject of here they're from and what's good to eat there. Learning how to thread a conversation is important. Learning how give an interesting answer is equally important btw. If they ask you a question most of the time they want you to ask them the same question. An example would be how's life? If they ask you that and after you answer it you should ask them that too! Cause you have to contribute to the conversation. Also if they ask you interview questions. You just learn how to answer in interesting way. What do you do? Have you watched office space? Where the guy go stuck working in a cubicle and got 7 bosses that he have to report and work under? Eventually he got sick of it? "Yeah!" Well, I'm the opposite, I actually work in a cubicle and rather enjoy it. Thankfully I dont' have 7 bosses. edit: You practice all these different aspect/tricks of conversation separately. Figure out where in your conversation skill is lacking and practice. Keep on practicing until it become natural. It'll seem contrive at first but eventually it gets easier. edit2: If I ever in SF we should hang out and grab a beer. I'm always down to have new friends anyway. Unfortunately for the forseeable future I'll be in LA.