Obviously, you want to change somthing in your live - therefore you have to start doing new things. Start doing things you always wanted to try and are social a

Obviously, you want to change somthing in your live - therefore you have to start doing new things. Start doing things you always wanted to try and are social and enforce human contact in real life. Skype, MMORPG etc are not a complete interaction as they lack body language and don't develope a lot of subtle communication skill. Look for hobbies which can be done on a regular basis in clubs ("Hi there! -smile- I am new here, explain me how you are doing xyz) or surprise your coworkers with a random idea ("guys a always wanted to play paintball, who's in? ... Common its a one-off") Be decisive. Tell people about your decisions and passions. It seems to me, that you are VERY grounded (calm, sophisticated in the way you do things). You should develop a certain volume of aggressivity and begin to take a risk. Concerning woman, checkout [1]. However, things they say can be applied to every human interaction! [1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPCU03Dp8Zw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPCU03Dp8Zw