The first thing I would to is to become interested in your co-workers. Ask them about their lives, how they got to your company, why they came to your company,

The first thing I would to is to become interested in your co-workers. Ask them about their lives, how they got to your company, why they came to your company, what they did before. Ask them about their views on current events. This is how humans connect, by being interested in one another. You might also want to read "http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influenc.... The second most important thing is to ask for people for advice (which is what you're doing right now). It can be work-related, life-related it doesn't matter. By showing that you are open for advice, you show that you value their point of view and you give them the opportunity to communicate what they're best at. Regarding how to find the right girl, check out the Youtube channel from RSD Julien, the co-founder of Real Social Dynamics who is talking a lot about self-improvement and how to constantly expose yourself to things you are afraid of. But all in all, it's not about the girls, it's about you. So don't chase after girls, chase after your own best self and the right girl that loves you exactly the way you are will come automatically. He started out similar to you, not having many friends and being afraid of talking to women. Have a look here at his story https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GGp25fn25Cs https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GGp25fn25Cs