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Just a question: have you ever been in a relationship? I'm just curious, because what other evidence do you have for the seemingly bold statement that women bec

by morbius 12y ago

Just a question: have you ever been in a relationship? I'm just curious, because what other evidence do you have for the seemingly bold statement that women become more like their mothers as time goes on?

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mercer 12y ago
Well, let's see: 1. a woman shares DNA with her mother. A big chunk of it. 2. she were most likely raised by her mother, and influenced strongly by who she was, the good and the bad. 3. on account of being of the same gender, a mother is usually a primary role model to woman, in the same way many fathers are to men. I'd say that's plenty of evidence. I'd also say that the same goes for men, and more recently I've been amazed by how similar my siblings are to me, in comparison to the rest of the world. Anecdotally, it's true to varying degrees with all women I know, and the similarities only became more visible as I got to know them better. While I'm not a big fan of the points OP picked to focus on ("how well she keeps the home in order, raise kids, and AGE"), I don't think his statement that women often become like their mothers is so incredibly bold or hard to believe. While my impressions of a love interest's mother (and to a lesser degree father) are not the deciding factor, they are an important data point, because in every relationship I've had, specific 'issues' that were immediately obvious in her parents eventually bubbled up in her as well. It would be silly to ignore that information.
- dba7dba 12y ago
  > While I'm not a big fan of the points OP picked to focus on ("how well she keeps the home in order, raise kids, and AGE"), I should've put it in this form: "Before marrying, people wonder "do I want to spend rest my life with this woman?" Well there's a good prediction of what your future wife will be like, and that would be her mother."
  - mercer 12y ago
    Yeah, that's more or less how I read it. I just wanted to make it clear that I was agreeing with you on the general statement, not on the possible interpretation that the things you name are the typical things one should think of of in relation to women.
dba7dba 12y ago
I am in fact married with kids. And my statement was based on my observations. I can make such statements based on my observations no? Or do I have quote a scientific research?

by morbius 12y ago

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mercer 12y ago

Well, let's see: 1. a woman shares DNA with her mother. A big chunk of it. 2. she were most likely raised by her mother, and influenced strongly by who she was, the good and the bad. 3. on account of being of the same gender, a mother is usually a primary role model to woman, in the same way many fathers are to men. I'd say that's plenty of evidence. I'd also say that the same goes for men, and more recently I've been amazed by how similar my siblings are to me, in comparison to the rest of the world. Anecdotally, it's true to varying degrees with all women I know, and the similarities only became more visible as I got to know them better. While I'm not a big fan of the points OP picked to focus on ("how well she keeps the home in order, raise kids, and AGE"), I don't think his statement that women often become like their mothers is so incredibly bold or hard to believe. While my impressions of a love interest's mother (and to a lesser degree father) are not the deciding factor, they are an important data point, because in every relationship I've had, specific 'issues' that were immediately obvious in her parents eventually bubbled up in her as well. It would be silly to ignore that information.

dba7dba 12y ago
> While I'm not a big fan of the points OP picked to focus on ("how well she keeps the home in order, raise kids, and AGE"), I should've put it in this form: "Before marrying, people wonder "do I want to spend rest my life with this woman?" Well there's a good prediction of what your future wife will be like, and that would be her mother."
- mercer 12y ago
  Yeah, that's more or less how I read it. I just wanted to make it clear that I was agreeing with you on the general statement, not on the possible interpretation that the things you name are the typical things one should think of of in relation to women.

dba7dba 12y ago

I am in fact married with kids. And my statement was based on my observations. I can make such statements based on my observations no? Or do I have quote a scientific research?