Agreed that F.U.D. is old-fashioned/crude compared to reason/responsibility for a parenting tool. If the consequences of actions are known ahead of time, and th

Agreed that F.U.D. is old-fashioned/crude compared to reason/responsibility for a parenting tool. If the consequences of actions are known ahead of time, and the consequences are 'dealt' every time, there's no need to toy with strong emotions. External guilt plays with self-esteem, which is hard enough for kids. It's bad enough goofing up and feeling that feeling without having someone tell you you're an idiot and will burn in hell forever. (Lots of kids die over that stuff.)