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It sounds like you're going through something that I have some experience with. I'm a young guy (21). I've been frustrated time and time again by feelings of
by notduncansmith 12y ago
It sounds like you're going through something that I have some experience with.
I'm a young guy (21). I've been frustrated time and time again by feelings of "why hasn't it happened yet?" and "why do I keep throwing myself at this shit?". I'm a pathological starter (not finisher) of projects. I fall victim to the 70% rule constantly.
There a few things that help me deal with it:
1. Realizing how much left I have to learn. I regularly consult for $XXX/hr on a wide array of topics within the software business: however, while I have a lot of knowledge, all it takes is for a true "expert" who's been doing ______ for the last 30 years to make me realize that I don't know even close to everything, or even everything about X, and that it's entirely acceptable for me to not be at that level yet.
2. Shipping something. I've been where you're at, where you have your finger on the trigger, and then you throw the safety back on and give up. It's a reaction due to natural human fear, and the only antidote to the poison that is fear is to ship stuff. Do something simple, low-risk at first, like a redesign of your website (done this a few times). Then ship a product, something tiny, nothing "world-changing", just something that's shippable (did this a few weeks ago). That will build up your confidence, and from there you're unstoppable. Don't be afraid to ship because someone's already done something: if we all did that, there'd be no Pepsi (debatably a good thing).
3. Do normal things. I wanted to hack on something today, while my son took a nap. Guess what I did instead? Watched a movie, then did the dishes. Yep. One way to look at it is procrastinating (why are you watching a movie instead of changing the world?) but I've been banging out code for the past 6 days and I wanted a damn break, so I took one. It's okay to take the pressure off every now and again.
4. Stop comparing yourself to "all the great founders". They're outliers. Plenty of people start very successful companies at 24, 34, hell 54. Ray Kroc started McDonald's at 52.
It sounds like you could use a break. Take one, you'll be much better for it. A few days, a few weeks, a few years, whatever it takes. Spend some time in the real world, and when you come back into the fold you'll have plenty of real-world problems to solve :)