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What exactly is the difference between 'forced' and 'pressured' in your mind? The two words are practically synonymous. It doesn't matter whether they physical

What exactly is the difference between 'forced' and 'pressured' in your mind? The two words are practically synonymous. It doesn't matter whether they physically held her down and poured it into her throat, or that they cajoled her over an extended period into doing it. Either way, she was forced into drinking. Peer pressure is just another way of forcing people to do things they don't want to. I'm Irish. I'm fully familiar with that kind of drinking culture. > Explaining to them that you don't drink, for whatever reason, will very likely put the matter to rest quickly. Obviously that didn't work in this case.

Pacabel 12y ago
If it was "forced", then she would have had absolutely no choice in the matter. It probably wasn't physical, as we've already determined. It likely didn't involve any sort of risk to her job outside of her control, as the original commenter clearly says, "She quit in her 3rd week." It probably was the typical, purely-verbal, friendly coaxing that oft persistent Americans can engage in. That's what I'd consider "pressure". Aside from a brief and harmless verbal interaction, nobody is coerced into doing anything. You may have to say "No" a few times, since they'll try to convince you to reconsider in a friendly manner. But they'll respect your decision soon enough. It's really no different than going to a market in a developing nation, and having to fend off street vendors. They can be persistent, for sure, but there's absolutely no obligation to buy from them, and any interaction with them is almost always totally harmless. I think this is "incident" is probably being misconstrued and totally blown out of proportion. Had she better understood American culture, and had she merely said, "No, thanks!" a few times, it would've been settled without any hard feelings.

Pacabel 12y ago

If it was "forced", then she would have had absolutely no choice in the matter. It probably wasn't physical, as we've already determined. It likely didn't involve any sort of risk to her job outside of her control, as the original commenter clearly says, "She quit in her 3rd week." It probably was the typical, purely-verbal, friendly coaxing that oft persistent Americans can engage in. That's what I'd consider "pressure". Aside from a brief and harmless verbal interaction, nobody is coerced into doing anything. You may have to say "No" a few times, since they'll try to convince you to reconsider in a friendly manner. But they'll respect your decision soon enough. It's really no different than going to a market in a developing nation, and having to fend off street vendors. They can be persistent, for sure, but there's absolutely no obligation to buy from them, and any interaction with them is almost always totally harmless. I think this is "incident" is probably being misconstrued and totally blown out of proportion. Had she better understood American culture, and had she merely said, "No, thanks!" a few times, it would've been settled without any hard feelings.