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Well... I never said it should be banned. I am actually a pretty tolerant person. It just feels gross to me. I was more curious how it was allowed to happen at

Well... I never said it should be banned. I am actually a pretty tolerant person. It just feels gross to me. I was more curious how it was allowed to happen at a time when lots of people are working hard to make tech a more inviting place for women. I don't think this is helping. Admittedly, I know this is not a tech recruiting ring... these women don't sound like they're on a path to be in tech. They just want to date a techie. But if this isn't insulting to women in tech (all women? everyone in tech? everyone?) then I truly have lost all sense of acceptability. I probably should have picked a better word than "allowed."

smsm42 12y ago
Why can't it be allowed to happen? I mean, nobody as far as I can see was forced, coerced, deceived or tricked into doing something that they did not want to do. Some guys wanted to meet some females that have specific qualities, some females wanted to meet some guys that have specific qualities. Things like that happen - both in RL and on specialized sites - literally every second. Do you have to like it? No. There's a lot of things that people do that I don't like. However I would never imply that should not happen - apparently, there are a lot of people that do like doing those things, and as long as there are people willing to do this and nobody is hurt, it's their business, not mine. So I wonder - why exactly should not it happen? >>> But if this isn't insulting to women in tech Who is "women in tech"? It's not a person that you can insult. Why "women in tech" should have single opinion about anything and be - all of them, collectively - insulted by something? And why, if some woman or multiple women are insulted by this, we shouldn't wait for them to tell us if they are insulted and listen what they are insulted by, instead of trying to guess it and wield that imaginary insult as a weapon?

smsm42 12y ago

Why can't it be allowed to happen? I mean, nobody as far as I can see was forced, coerced, deceived or tricked into doing something that they did not want to do. Some guys wanted to meet some females that have specific qualities, some females wanted to meet some guys that have specific qualities. Things like that happen - both in RL and on specialized sites - literally every second. Do you have to like it? No. There's a lot of things that people do that I don't like. However I would never imply that should not happen - apparently, there are a lot of people that do like doing those things, and as long as there are people willing to do this and nobody is hurt, it's their business, not mine. So I wonder - why exactly should not it happen? >>> But if this isn't insulting to women in tech Who is "women in tech"? It's not a person that you can insult. Why "women in tech" should have single opinion about anything and be - all of them, collectively - insulted by something? And why, if some woman or multiple women are insulted by this, we shouldn't wait for them to tell us if they are insulted and listen what they are insulted by, instead of trying to guess it and wield that imaginary insult as a weapon?