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Great post. Specifically on the "I can tell in five minutes whether I'll like someone or not part," getting into local maxima is definitely possible but it's no
by markbao 12y ago
Great post. Specifically on the "I can tell in five minutes whether I'll like someone or not part," getting into local maxima is definitely possible but it's not a bad place to be. The folks at that level are great folks and one is able to discern them with less work. I've found, though, that some folks that I initially got a negative impression from turned out to be really great people, outside of the "5 minute" criteria, though it took some work to get there.
So as with any case of potential local maxima, my approach is to spend more time with some of the folks that fall outside this "5 minute" criteria, to a) meet a more diverse group of people and b) improve my "5 minute" criteria so that there are fewer false negatives.
- freshhawk 12y agoIt's a good catch to realize that the main downside to this approach is an inevitable lack of diversity in your friend group. That feeling you are basing it on is a general sense of cultural similarity and worldview similarity. Some of those similarities you want but many you don't.