Every once in a while this subject comes up with female friends of mine, and every time I'm shocked by the stories. And then I'm shocked even more by the fact

Every once in a while this subject comes up with female friends of mine, and every time I'm shocked by the stories. And then I'm shocked even more by the fact that I am generally unaware of all this, and by the fact that they don't usually tell me these things because they're 'used' to it and they don't want people to think they're whining.