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Logically speaking, since folks with your attitude are a large part of the reason people like me don't bother, wouldn't that also make you, and your actions her
by mreiland 12y ago
Logically speaking, since folks with your attitude are a large part of the reason people like me don't bother, wouldn't that also make you, and your actions here, a part of the problem?
And wouldn't that imply the solution is to stop doing what you're doing?
So in essence, didn't you just admonish yourself?
- webmaven 12y agoLet's just say that your retort, "well I would have helped if only you didn't make such a big deal about it", is awfully convenient as an excuse to do nothing (and is very nearly the same as the 'tone argument'). Because, of course, if no one makes a big deal about something, that also provides an excuse.
- mreiland 12y agoAnd thankfully that isn't what I said, because I agree that would be a ridiculous argument. What I said is that after getting blamed constantly for no other reason than being born with a cock I've stopped caring what the people doing the blaming think. Another way to look at it is like this: Men are not stupid. They know if they've been sexist or not. When you blame them for shit they know they are not involved in, it means they cannot trust you when you blame other men for shit they didn't witness.
- webmaven 12y agoHow can I be more clear about this? You are not a terrible person, and are not to blame. Being part of the problem, or more precisely, part of a problematic system) does not mean that the problem is your fault, or that you have a duty to fix it. Congratulations, you have met your basic societal obligations. You are off the hook. You are free to look the other way rather than confront or condemn sexism when you encounter it, in person or online.