I don't think you're a whiner - my position is not that dissimilar. Both sides of the decision likely involve compromise. The idea that being a more involved p

I don't think you're a whiner - my position is not that dissimilar. Both sides of the decision likely involve compromise. The idea that being a more involved parent is without downside is sadly not true for most people. The only thing I would say is that there are jobs that allow a work life balance which aren't totally soul destroying - something between your current hell and the 12 hour a day start up culture. Maybe it's time to start looking for something which may not be your perfect job, but might be a little better.