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But it's not just about pleasure. It's about love, and intimacy, and it's about maturity and self respect. It's about procreation and biology. I agree that we s
by ChuckFrank 12y ago
But it's not just about pleasure. It's about love, and intimacy, and it's about maturity and self respect. It's about procreation and biology. I agree that we should stop talking about it just as mechanics. I never have. But it's about much more than pleasure, and kids are surprisingly mature enough to understand that if you give them the chance.
The best piece of advice that I read was to encourage children to wait to have sex until the time that their bodies had finished growing. Then, when their bodies are full grown, they can have safe and protected sex.
I think this is the discussion that we should be having - in schools, in churches, and at home.
- notdonspaulding 12y agoWhy should churches should base their position on adolescent sexuality on the time "that their bodies [have] finished growing"? What churches are you talking about and what's the tie between your views and theirs?
- mercer 12y agoI'm (honestly) curious how exactly you'd defined 'finished growing'. Because from my perspective that is anywhere between 'physically capable of having and enjoying sex' and 'hormonal balance and a mostly-developed mind'. Which could be anywhere between twelve and twenty-something. In my social circles many people started having sex around the age of fifteen, but some didn't have sex until their early twenties. I wasn't particularly interested in girls until my late teens, but I started exploring my sexuality at the age of eight.
- ChuckFrank 12y agoI think the self-empowerment component of the concept is potentially the most compelling part of the suggestion. Though like you say, it may vary tremendously between individuals. Still it's a good starting point for discussion - when do we stop growing?