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> From what I've seen, this is not unusual for men. Yes, I agree with everything you said. Of course the implication here is that it's different for women. Whi
by Udo 12y ago
> From what I've seen, this is not unusual for men.
Yes, I agree with everything you said. Of course the implication here is that it's different for women. Which may well be the case.
Anecdotal evidence on my part seems to suggest that men are prone to add exceptions to their filter in order to let people in, whereas women overwhelmingly tend to only restrict their results further. In the end, this all might be explainable by supply and demand concepts, the underlying theory being that women always have a higher mate value than men. This sounds mathematically absurd at first, but it seems to fit the behavior patterns observable in the wild.
- EGreg 12y agoWhy is it mathematically absurd? Women have a smaller reproductive window than men. This includes periods which take a full 25% of the reproductive time. Men are available all the time. Women also bear a higher cost and greater investment in sex. So once again they are more selective. This creates greater competition among males for females than the other way around. Sure, the top guys have women competing for them but a much greater percentage of women have men competing for THEIR sex.
- Dewie 12y agoI think the topic is more about relationships, not sex in itself.
- EGreg 12y agoWell even in relationships these same considerations apply. A woman's investment in a relationship is higher since her biological clock is ticking, so to speak. She is most desirable in her teens and twenties and it falls off from there. Just ask who's chasing who after 35. So, she will try to optimize her time in long term relationship with the best marriage / long term love partner prospect. That's why she cares about more than looks.
- Dewie 12y agoAnd what are men's considerations in long term relationships? It doesn't seem like they are just going along with the first woman who deems them worthy.
- EGreg 12y agoI guess there's a whole spectrum. Many men aren't interested in committing anymore. In general though men 21-40 are the chasers in the beginning and women are the chasers in the relationship.