if you do not have a high mate value, take heart. All you need is for others to have the patience to get to know you Or increase your mate value. In traits lik

if you do not have a high mate value, take heart. All you need is for others to have the patience to get to know you Or increase your mate value. In traits like conscientiousness or intelligence 40-60% of variance is genetic. There is no reason to think that somehow charisma is a weird outlier with which you're stuck. She thinks anyone can act much more charismatically https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LMu_md_5PQ4 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LMu_md_5PQ4 Feels a little newagey but otherwise completely reasonable. It's the same with meeting people. You probably live in a large city with millions of them. Even with strict selection there are at least a few thousands of potential mates. Why wait until you end up in a small group with one of them? It also means that you have as many attempts as you want. Blowing out with one person will not haunt you through that social group forever. This is one of those articles that is supposed to make people feel good about themselves, and maybe it does, but at the cost of bringing counter-productive advice.