No, there's more to it than PG explains: In particular there is T. Berry Brazelton, M.D., What Every Baby Knows. The author is a pediatrician in Boston and h

No, there's more to it than PG explains: In particular there is T. Berry Brazelton, M.D., What Every Baby Knows. The author is a pediatrician in Boston and has been popular in shows on child care on PBS. He looks phenomenally insightful with babies and children, e.g., easily knows more in a few minutes about a baby than its mother knows. I got the book wondering what the heck I knew as a baby but no longer do (remember, people do not remember what they knew as babies). Well, in the book, from memory, he says, "When a child is rejected by its peers, the reason is always that the child has anxieties, these show and make the peers feel uncomfortable, and then the peer reject the child." That's it "always". So, nerds? They have anxieties. Why? Maybe the anxieties are part of their drive to pay special attention to nerd interests. Also, from my experience, now that I understand more, I was more popular than I knew: Girls were reluctant to show any interest for various reasons including fear of being rejected. To make it with girls, have to be a little like a salesman, that is, be willing to put up with some rejection. Then the boy looks more confident, less 'needy', and that is attractive to girls. Also for girls, don't expect them to be as 'active' as might want and, instead, just ask them for things. E.g., basically just ask them, say, to bake you a batch of oatmeal cookies. ASK for some little thing: Then there is a good chance that they will rush to do that little thing in hopes of getting back some praise, approval, affection, security, etc. Besides, might get some good cookies and maybe more!