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"And, I mean, the great-looking ones, like the really high-caliber studs — they flirt right back, no problem. Because they know their status will never be quest
by larrys 12y ago
"And, I mean, the great-looking ones, like the really high-caliber studs — they flirt right back, no problem. Because they know their status will never be questioned. But guys like you never flirt with me. Because you get scared that maybe you should be with a girl like me. And why not?""
That's not really the reason actually.
There is a version of this that happens once you get older. Young attractive women aren't afraid to talk to you like they were when you were younger. The reason is they don't feel threatened talking to someone who is approaching their dad's age. Because it's very clear where the boundaries are and what the "relationship" is.
Likewise the absolute stud can flirt with the (if you want to call it this) fuggly or the knockout girl can flirt with the pimpled nerd (or repairman) simply because the contrast is so great both parties clearly know their place in the interaction. It becomes an "as if we would date each other situation hah hah".
The closer two people come in looks, social status etc, the more likely there would be pressure to feel as if they could be a match and more likely to send out signals saying "sorry no match".
- jnbiche 12y ago>Young attractive women aren't afraid to talk to you like they were when you were younger. Ha, yes this is happening to me. Where before there would be tension and standoffishness, attractive young women rarely hesitate to talk with me now, particularly when I'm with my kids. I like it much better this way, since 99% of the time I really wasn't interested anyway. It always bugged me when physically attractive women assumed I would be interested in them. My physical ideal does not match the ideal of most of my fellow countrymen. To be clear, I've seen many physically attractive men behave the same way; indeed, my wife and I frequently joke about this now. In any case, it's a relief now to be able to just relate to people as fellow humans, without some sort of social expectations to live up to regarding our mutual attraction (or lack thereof, more often).
- resu_nimda 12y agoHow does your point actually differ from what you quoted? It seems like you're saying the same thing. "they know their status will never be questioned" = "the contrast is so great both parties clearly know their place in the interaction" "you get scared that maybe you should be with a girl like me" = "The closer two people come in looks...the more likely there would be pressure to feel as if they could be a match"