I think this issue can be made a bit simpler by considering the superficial nature of our 'first' encounter in the dating world. I mean, except in some extraord

I think this issue can be made a bit simpler by considering the superficial nature of our 'first' encounter in the dating world. I mean, except in some extraordinary circumstance... the first time you meet someone, you are judging them on their appearance. Do they smell? Are they unkempt? Are they close shaven? Only if you are 'passable' in a person's mind for attractiveness, will you have the opportunity to open a conversation that could lead to more. It would be exceedingly hard to go from 'not dateable' based on first impression, to 'dateable' based on 15 minutes of extreme confidence and charm. Even online dating has only somewhat removed this problem if you consider the lengths to which people go to 'disguise' their appearance on profile photos. Or consider Tinder as an example of at least one class of dating--attractiveness is the requisite for having a chance at beginning a relationship. This is not being shallow or indicative of some character flaw... we are all entitled to choose who we will have as a partner. To be honest, I think there are plenty of 'curvy' women that are NOT fat at all... in fact, some men would say they find those women more attractive than bone thin stereotypical model types. It's really about a level of maturity that a man attains when he udnerstands his 'wants' vs. his 'needs.' Sure chemistry could develop months down the line, but it's just more convenient to choose potential matches up front with the knowledge of your 'wants.'