I am fresh out of college. I am working, too. My job isn't my life, it should not define who you are, but it really took a long time to realize that. 1. In the

I am fresh out of college. I am working, too. My job isn't my life, it should not define who you are, but it really took a long time to realize that. 1. In the evenings and weekends, I make art and games. I eventually want to move to Silicon Valley one day. I want to meet my heroes. That keeps me going through the obstacles and roadblocks. 2. I was really burnt out during college. Should I be a doctor? Psychologist? Investment banker? Engineer? These thoughts would weigh me down so much I actually ended up getting so burnt out (studying so hard towards something I could not even see), that I slowly started to sabotage myself and ended up doing none of that. I graduated, got a regular job, and now I pursue blogging and game-making in my free time. It sounds like a sad story, but I am actually a lot happier than I was before. I still struggle because what I do now is not what I dreamt that I would be doing. I did not study programming extensively in school, but I became really interested in it after being inspired by MineCraft, Paul Graham, stories about all kinds of hackers (good and bad), Steve Jobs, etc. I used to lack motivation, but I became really motivated once I became truly and thoroughly inspired. Look for that inspiration. Is it a loneliness issue for you? That's something I still struggle with, because the friends I made in college felt like acquaintances to me. I think it is because I was trying to push myself to be something that I was not (I did things that I thought would increase my "employability" and salary potential while sacrificing being true to myself, which was a huge mistake. If I was true to myself, I would have met people with similar interests). So now I am striving to go to places where there are people who share my interests and have the same ideals/values. If you were to sit down and seriously think, what would you do if you had no obligations whatsoever?