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I just want to throw my two cents in as a (very) young woman in college that aspires to become a Software Engineer. I'm very glad that groups like PyLadies and

by zysh 12y ago

I just want to throw my two cents in as a (very) young woman in college that aspires to become a Software Engineer. I'm very glad that groups like PyLadies and Women Who Code exist. Unfortunately I'm pretty terrified of meeting men that are significantly more experienced than myself in the industry when it comes to software. I'm terrified of coming off as clueless or air headed. On top of that, the men I have met in the industry are extremely intimidating. I've already had multiple experiences at University where a male peer has looked down at me due to my gender. This is probably just a simple self confidence issue since I'm young however my point is groups that are women centric are a lot easier to relate to for someone like myself. I love the prospects of meeting other women that can give emotional and professional advice while sharing their work experiences with me. It's much easier to relate to and I'm sure networking with other women makes it easier to transition into the industry from school. Just my two cents.

e_modad 12y ago
Thanks for putting this out there. I'm not really sure what the solution is but one thing is for sure: I would never want any of my girl coder friends to feel isolated or threatened. Every single male coder I know would look down on that male peer you mentioned. I don't know if it makes you feel any better but the vast majority of the men I know want women in this field to succeed and feel happy doing what they love.
AnthonyMouse 12y ago
> Unfortunately I'm pretty terrified of meeting men that are significantly more experienced than myself in the industry when it comes to software. I'm terrified of coming off as clueless or air headed. Don't worry about that. Making mistakes is one of the best ways to learn. Making a mistake in front of someone or even an entire lecture hall is nothing. They probably won't even remember it. But you will, because it was your mistake and you won't ever make it again. Leaving wrong ideas in your head instead of saying them and letting someone correct you is how people become clueless. Opening your mouth more will cause you to be wrong less. > On top of that, the men I have met in the industry are extremely intimidating. This industry is full of jerks. Defy them by succeeding.

by zysh 12y ago

e_modad 12y ago

Thanks for putting this out there. I'm not really sure what the solution is but one thing is for sure: I would never want any of my girl coder friends to feel isolated or threatened. Every single male coder I know would look down on that male peer you mentioned. I don't know if it makes you feel any better but the vast majority of the men I know want women in this field to succeed and feel happy doing what they love.

AnthonyMouse 12y ago

> Unfortunately I'm pretty terrified of meeting men that are significantly more experienced than myself in the industry when it comes to software. I'm terrified of coming off as clueless or air headed. Don't worry about that. Making mistakes is one of the best ways to learn. Making a mistake in front of someone or even an entire lecture hall is nothing. They probably won't even remember it. But you will, because it was your mistake and you won't ever make it again. Leaving wrong ideas in your head instead of saying them and letting someone correct you is how people become clueless. Opening your mouth more will cause you to be wrong less. > On top of that, the men I have met in the industry are extremely intimidating. This industry is full of jerks. Defy them by succeeding.