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way too tired to bother with people attempting to communicate while communing. thats why people talk on planes or longer range trains, etc. you'd really want
by zobzu 13y ago
way too tired to bother with people attempting to communicate while communing.
thats why people talk on planes or longer range trains, etc.
you'd really want to feel required to talk to stranger every day of the week, morning/evening?
Not me.
- graeme 13y agoThe study actually accounted for your opinion. It said that people thought they would prefer to sit alone, then had an improved experience by talking. You may still be right, but empiricism would suggest you should test your belief by making small talk with a stranger and see if you feel better or worse.
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- lnanek2 13y agoYes, but in the study they were being paid to talk.
- gradstudent 13y agoAlso: (i) the conversations were once-offs; (ii) they were part of a study, which might have altered the perceived well-being of the participants (for Science! huzzah! etc.).
- watwut 13y agoI found occasional unexpected chat with strangers is usually pleasant. However, I also avoid places where such chats happen often, because they become tiring pretty quickly. First short talk in waiting room for doctor was pleasant. When it turned out they are too frequent, I started to look for isolated places. I guess it is different if you are lonely and need to talk, but I was not lonely at the time. My need to read or being lost in my own thoughts was much higher. Essentially, if I had to spend that visit (they were long) by small talks, I was tired in the evening and preferred to watch tv and be alone. If I could be left alone, I found it much easier to interact with family and real friends in the evening. The second mode makes me much happier in the long term (plus I get to keep long term relationships). I think that this is the biggest problem of these studies. They measure short term happiness burst from isolated events. It is like going on a short ski trip, finding it pleasant and then assuming you would be happier skiing on the very same hill every day all year. Maybe yes, but most likely not.
- zobzu 13y agoyeah occasional is fine. forced-due-to-social-rules isn't.
- Cthulhu_ 13y agoTired? Sounds like a symptom to me really; do you get enough sleep? Caffeine dependency? Alternatively, maybe you meant "tiring", i.e. it costs a lot of energy to engage in conversations / social interactions, depending on where you stand on the introvert / extrovert scale.