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>> I found out who the parents where (divorced, different locations) drove to both their houses, and said, "If your kid doesn't stop today, you, your kid and yo

>> I found out who the parents where (divorced, different locations) drove to both their houses, and said, "If your kid doesn't stop today, you, your kid and your family, are not safe outside this door. I never said this." I put on my best pycho face. Truly, I was psycho, so it didn't take much. This was one great way to deal with it. Though I can't stop thinking about the legal issues this could've caused. Bullying in school by kids is one thing but going out there and threatning someone is completely another ball. What if they had recorded it somehow and complained? I say this as someone who's in early twenties and have dealt with bullying in school for 4-5 years.

cognivore 12y ago
>> What if they had recorded it somehow and complained? << I couldn't imagine someone being ready to record a conversation in the first 15 second of them opening their front door. It's a matter of judgement, to be sure. I have a spotless police record. Both of these parents do not (and the father's was violent in nature). As another replier here noted "restraining order." I would have enjoyed a legal battle with these parents, as they have not near the resources to draw on as I. I also had evidence against their child in the form of notes and drawing that were violent and threatening in nature. If that had of been some other type of parent, I'd maybe had done it differently. But with these people, that's what worked.
- ishansharma 12y ago
  Kudos to you. This comment clears the picture and paints it more as "well thought" rather than brash action feeling reflected in parent. I will note this down and will remember for the time when I am a parent. Edit: Grammar.
  - cognivore 12y ago
    Thank you for the reconsideration. I've never actually been in a fight in my entire life (probably why I got bullied so much) and it took every last ounce of my self control to walk up to someone who had already had a history of violence. It's just bad all the way the 'roud.
- schnable 12y ago
  Lots of people today have cameras recording what happens at their front door.
- anon4 12y ago
  > with these people, that's what worked And this is a very important point - there isn't a magical cure-all solution to these things. You have to consider what approach works not only for you, but also what works on the people you need to reach. People really are diverse enough that the approach you took, while one that some could consider ill-advised, was the actual right way to communicate with the other party in your situation.

cognivore 12y ago

>> What if they had recorded it somehow and complained? << I couldn't imagine someone being ready to record a conversation in the first 15 second of them opening their front door. It's a matter of judgement, to be sure. I have a spotless police record. Both of these parents do not (and the father's was violent in nature). As another replier here noted "restraining order." I would have enjoyed a legal battle with these parents, as they have not near the resources to draw on as I. I also had evidence against their child in the form of notes and drawing that were violent and threatening in nature. If that had of been some other type of parent, I'd maybe had done it differently. But with these people, that's what worked.

ishansharma 12y ago
Kudos to you. This comment clears the picture and paints it more as "well thought" rather than brash action feeling reflected in parent. I will note this down and will remember for the time when I am a parent. Edit: Grammar.
- cognivore 12y ago
  Thank you for the reconsideration. I've never actually been in a fight in my entire life (probably why I got bullied so much) and it took every last ounce of my self control to walk up to someone who had already had a history of violence. It's just bad all the way the 'roud.
schnable 12y ago
Lots of people today have cameras recording what happens at their front door.
anon4 12y ago
> with these people, that's what worked And this is a very important point - there isn't a magical cure-all solution to these things. You have to consider what approach works not only for you, but also what works on the people you need to reach. People really are diverse enough that the approach you took, while one that some could consider ill-advised, was the actual right way to communicate with the other party in your situation.