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I burned out around six years ago, due to constant insults, being shouted at, sworn at, criticisms (not constructive or analytical in any shape or form), taking

by NAFV_P 12y ago

I burned out around six years ago, due to constant insults, being shouted at, sworn at, criticisms (not constructive or analytical in any shape or form), taking the blame for other people's mistakes, threats of being "blacklisted", threats of violence, being treated like a retard, developing an awful cough due to the amount of dust on the premises and the disgusting hypocrisy and double standards practised by many of my co-workers. After eight months of work, I could count the number of positive remarks about my work that I had received on one hand with fingers to spare. The number of "incidents" would require roughly 80 or more pairs of hands to tally. I don't think I fall under any category mentioned in the article, I will furnish myself with a new category: "burnout by feeling terrorised". From my experience reporting these incidents to an outside authority is pointless, the usual response is "well everyone has problems at work". Do not give them a soundbite of what insults/threats you have endured, you might spend the night in a prison cell. From the article: > Treatments that include emotion regulation, increased cognitive flexibility, and mindfulness may help ward off burnout in susceptible individuals, suggests the research team led by Jesus Montero Marin of the University of Zaragoza in Spain. After being released from this job, the only thing I diagnosed about myself was: "I try too hard to be understanding and sympathetic of others". If you find yourself in this situation, my treatment would be: if the tactics of your enemy are more effective than yours, copy and adapt them to make your swords sharper.

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vorg 12y ago
> if the tactics of your enemy are more effective than yours, copy and adapt them to make your swords sharper If you start copying the enemy's tactics, they have a way of making it look like you started it. Ultimately they are hypocrites who manage their public image to look good while they themselves do the exact opposite. If they're putting bugs in the code to generate money-making after-hours calls, then they'll accuse you of doing it. If they're bullying you, they'll very quickly and loudly call you the bully if you reciprocate in any way. Although they're monitoring you closely, they'll soon notice and single you out if you try it on them. They'll then present the publicly visible aspects of their own harassment as a proportional response to yours, hiding the full extent of their own, the fact they started it, and how tolerant you were of them at first. Because of the legal situation they made sure you were in, your only choice was to walk away. You don't just decide to copy and adapt their tactics one day - the enemy have spent their entire lives honing their own skills in hypocrisy, bullying, whitewashing, and fleecing you of money.
- NAFV_P 12y ago
  > If you start copying the enemy's tactics, they have a way of making it look like you started it. Not merely copy, copy then adapt. I think they were not aware of the hypocrisy, merely highlighting it is often enough to stop people in their tracks. > If they're putting bugs in the code to generate money-making after-hours calls, then they'll accuse you of doing it. It wasn't a software house, it was an optometrist. They were passing off another optometrist's varifocals as their own. If they were caught, it would be impossible to accuse me of doing it. I worked in the front office dealing with paperwork, I am not optically trained (it's equivalent to studying medicine) and I was not involved in purchases, only sales. > If they're bullying you, they'll very quickly and loudly call you the bully if you reciprocate in any way. Although they're monitoring you closely, they'll soon notice and single you out if you try it on them. Who said I was going to resort to bullying, I'm referring to implicit blackmail, level out the field. Suggest the possibility via suitable questions and rhetoric, but never mention it directly. Regarding any kind of monitoring, the higher ups weren't monitoring the workplace effectively, which is partly why this kind of behaviour occurred. The surfacing section at the back of the building was highly inefficient and the problem was rarely discussed, let alone addressed. There were several people who didn't do any work at all, that's mental inefficiency. I was once asked to keep quiet regarding some of my co-workers drinking beer on site. The higher ups would smoke cigarettes inside the building, again asked to keep quiet (smoking indoors at work was banned in Britain the previous year, and the place was stocked with gallons of methanol and white spirit, BOOM). > They'll then present the publicly visible aspects of their own harassment as a proportional response to yours, hiding the full extent of their own, the fact they started it, and how tolerant you were of them at first. One colleague used to shout "FUCK OFF" at me on average three to four times a day, in front of a dozen witnesses. Not everybody at that place was a cunt, some of them were cool. Sometimes the phone was left off the hook, so his bad behaviour had been heard by the customers on several occasions. There is simply too much evidence lying around. > You don't just decide to copy and adapt their tactics one day - the enemy have spent their entire lives honing their own skills in hypocrisy, bullying, whitewashing, and fleecing you of money. In this case, the enemy was incredibly retarded. Another colleague once asked me to spell "claustrophobia" when she was sitting in front of a computer connected to the internet. One of the delivery men thought that the computer wasn't connected to the internet. Oh, here's the best bit. I once saw a photograph of the marketing manager sporting black face paint, a wig and a garish looking poncho (he was dressed as a rasta, he looked fucking stupid), snorting cocaine. With hindsight, I wish I had just grabbed it and run to one of their customers down the road.

by NAFV_P 12y ago

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vorg 12y ago

> if the tactics of your enemy are more effective than yours, copy and adapt them to make your swords sharper If you start copying the enemy's tactics, they have a way of making it look like you started it. Ultimately they are hypocrites who manage their public image to look good while they themselves do the exact opposite. If they're putting bugs in the code to generate money-making after-hours calls, then they'll accuse you of doing it. If they're bullying you, they'll very quickly and loudly call you the bully if you reciprocate in any way. Although they're monitoring you closely, they'll soon notice and single you out if you try it on them. They'll then present the publicly visible aspects of their own harassment as a proportional response to yours, hiding the full extent of their own, the fact they started it, and how tolerant you were of them at first. Because of the legal situation they made sure you were in, your only choice was to walk away. You don't just decide to copy and adapt their tactics one day - the enemy have spent their entire lives honing their own skills in hypocrisy, bullying, whitewashing, and fleecing you of money.

NAFV_P 12y ago
> If you start copying the enemy's tactics, they have a way of making it look like you started it. Not merely copy, copy then adapt. I think they were not aware of the hypocrisy, merely highlighting it is often enough to stop people in their tracks. > If they're putting bugs in the code to generate money-making after-hours calls, then they'll accuse you of doing it. It wasn't a software house, it was an optometrist. They were passing off another optometrist's varifocals as their own. If they were caught, it would be impossible to accuse me of doing it. I worked in the front office dealing with paperwork, I am not optically trained (it's equivalent to studying medicine) and I was not involved in purchases, only sales. > If they're bullying you, they'll very quickly and loudly call you the bully if you reciprocate in any way. Although they're monitoring you closely, they'll soon notice and single you out if you try it on them. Who said I was going to resort to bullying, I'm referring to implicit blackmail, level out the field. Suggest the possibility via suitable questions and rhetoric, but never mention it directly. Regarding any kind of monitoring, the higher ups weren't monitoring the workplace effectively, which is partly why this kind of behaviour occurred. The surfacing section at the back of the building was highly inefficient and the problem was rarely discussed, let alone addressed. There were several people who didn't do any work at all, that's mental inefficiency. I was once asked to keep quiet regarding some of my co-workers drinking beer on site. The higher ups would smoke cigarettes inside the building, again asked to keep quiet (smoking indoors at work was banned in Britain the previous year, and the place was stocked with gallons of methanol and white spirit, BOOM). > They'll then present the publicly visible aspects of their own harassment as a proportional response to yours, hiding the full extent of their own, the fact they started it, and how tolerant you were of them at first. One colleague used to shout "FUCK OFF" at me on average three to four times a day, in front of a dozen witnesses. Not everybody at that place was a cunt, some of them were cool. Sometimes the phone was left off the hook, so his bad behaviour had been heard by the customers on several occasions. There is simply too much evidence lying around. > You don't just decide to copy and adapt their tactics one day - the enemy have spent their entire lives honing their own skills in hypocrisy, bullying, whitewashing, and fleecing you of money. In this case, the enemy was incredibly retarded. Another colleague once asked me to spell "claustrophobia" when she was sitting in front of a computer connected to the internet. One of the delivery men thought that the computer wasn't connected to the internet. Oh, here's the best bit. I once saw a photograph of the marketing manager sporting black face paint, a wig and a garish looking poncho (he was dressed as a rasta, he looked fucking stupid), snorting cocaine. With hindsight, I wish I had just grabbed it and run to one of their customers down the road.