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"Well, I wouldn't mind if someone asked me!" As a member of a minority group, this statement is sadly something we hear all the time if we object to people ask
by mdisraeli 12y ago
"Well, I wouldn't mind if someone asked me!"
As a member of a minority group, this statement is sadly something we hear all the time if we object to people asking what should rationally otherwise be considered highly inappropriate questions. For example, just because someone is highly open about their sex life doesn't make asking a lesbian completely out of context how she has sex any more appropriate.
"Well, I would find it useful and be thankful"
Anyone who is a wheelchair user or has friends and family who are will probably know this one. People (strangers) have a habit of pushing wheelchairs around without asking the person within the chair first. Just because a currently abled body person might find the idea of someone helping them personally by pushing their chair if they used one, doesn't make it any more acceptable to completely ignore the wishes of a wheelchair user they don't know.
- jerf 12y agoI understand what you're saying in general, but have no idea why you think it's a reply to what I said. I didn't say anything about asking questions. I talked about honoring preferences. Explaining why you have some preferences (about what questions you'd like asked) you'd like honored would seem to reinforce my point, rather than deny it.