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> Strangers are outwardly friendly for no apparent reason Why should one need a reason to be friendly? Would you rather people be curt and standoffish by defau
by zhemao 13y ago
> Strangers are outwardly friendly for no apparent reason
Why should one need a reason to be friendly? Would you rather people be curt and standoffish by default?
- ashwinaj 13y agoWell I said outwardly friendly. As in like we grew up together in the same neighborhood kind of friendly.
- Uberphallus 13y agoSame happened when I had interviews for American companies. They were so excited about everything and overly enthusiastic I can't help but thing I'm being interviewed by psychos.
- aestra 13y agoIn the United States this is considered a "normal" amount of politeness. In some other cultures it is considered weird and fake. Some Americans go abroad and complain everyone was "rude" to them not realizing the cultural differences.
- lmm 13y agoIf everyone is your friend then no-one is. I wouldn't say curt and standoffish, but it's good to keep a certain amount of distance and formality with people you're not actually friends with so that you both know where you stand.
- Hasu 13y agoUnless friendliness is an expected social signal, and there's a separate signal, known to the local culture, but not to you, that says, "I'm being nice but we aren't actually friends".