Families and tribes can of course also be suffocating, difficult, dramatic, abusive, controlling, insular, xenophobic, and so on. Process is not a bad thing, as

Families and tribes can of course also be suffocating, difficult, dramatic, abusive, controlling, insular, xenophobic, and so on. Process is not a bad thing, as in e.g. the idea of "due process." It can be a way of making things fair and transparent.