I believe an answer to such a question involves topics out of the scope of HN, but I guess it doesn't hurt once in a while. I went through that situation a coup

I believe an answer to such a question involves topics out of the scope of HN, but I guess it doesn't hurt once in a while. I went through that situation a couple of weeks ago, so here is how I dealt with it. Hopefully you'll find something useful in it. I had to become stable again as an individual first. It means getting used to be alone and not having someone to share my life with everyday. I've been spending a huge amount of time with my self. It's been hard, but it's also been the only way for me to figure out what I wanted in life. Luckily, I am a developer doing what I love, and that helped a lot. I believe you are too. Another important point was for me to realize that she and I weren't meant to be together, and she broke up with me for a reason. We believed in different ideologies, and she probably wanted something I could never give her. I don't know what your situation is, but there is a significant chance that you broke up for a good reason. Don't hesitate to talk about it with others. Anyone. Brace yourself and enjoy the time you have with your self. You may have most one of the most significant things in your life, but you're now free to be and become anyone you want. Do the things you could not do in your relationships. bradleysmith is absolutely right when he advised you to "grin and bear it. Struggle through, and find the focus within yourself. You'll make it through this, regardless of what happens." Once you manage to stabilize and strengthen yourself as an individual, your love for coding and other things in your life will be stronger than ever! : ) One book that helped me was The Fountainhead, by Ayn Rand. It's about one's love for his work, in part.