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I don't want my children to be like me, I want them to be better than me. I can try to be what I want them to be (said otherwise: I can try to be what I want my
by roel_v 13y ago
I don't want my children to be like me, I want them to be better than me. I can try to be what I want them to be (said otherwise: I can try to be what I want myself to be, or what I should be), but acknowledging my fallibility and proactively anticipating flaws in execution in the 'lead be example' strategy seems to be more grounded in reality.
(think of it this way: how many athletics coaches tell their athletes 'just run as fast as I do'?)
- prestadige 13y agoTrying to get somebody to live the sort of life you want for them is a potentially harmful mistake. Why not pay attention to one's performance as a parent, and learn from that?
- roel_v 13y ago"Trying to get somebody to live the sort of life you want for them is a potentially harmful mistake." Well yeah obviously, I was talking about the second-order effect of the parenting. Like a control signal being modulated onto the main signal (with the main signal being a child's endogenous drives, interests and character), or one-dimensional Perlin noise, the parenting needs to follow the primary amplitude.
- nevinera 13y agoYour children are not going to copy your skills and abilities, they're going to imitate your decisions, conscious and unconscious. If you're an athletics coach that tells your athletes to run as fast as they can, and you personally half-ass it around the track and have a bit of a beer gut, then you're doing a bad job.