4) I guess I'd prefer restaurants where the servers were incentivized to be servers not sales people. Certainly that is the way most places try to present their

4) I guess I'd prefer restaurants where the servers were incentivized to be servers not sales people. Certainly that is the way most places try to present their service staff to the customers. When you have to flirt to keep your job, or to keep your job financially viable, that seems... exploitive. Sure, if you want to use flirtation to make a little bit more than your peers, that's on you. 5) the servers I know make a LARGE portion of their money via tips (off the top of my head I'd guess 60-70%). I would be shocked if any sales position had perks that rivalled that ratio. 5b) It's possible you are right. I'm vague on the details, but I know my server friends have lots of complaints related to the fairness of tipouts. I suspect the inconsistent way that tipouts are done means some places _will_ tipout management or other non-server/host/cook positions.