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To my ear "oh cool, today is the day you get to learn about X." is even more patronizing than the feigned surprise. Feigned surprise may have a tone of superior
by ppod 13y ago
To my ear "oh cool, today is the day you get to learn about X." is even more patronizing than the feigned surprise. Feigned surprise may have a tone of superiority, but at least it means they respect my knowledge enough to be surprised that I don't know.
- yanowitz 13y agoYMMV, but I find this has more to do with the attitudes of the participants. Knowledge is not a zero-sum game, I hope to learn new things every day, and want the people I work with to help level me up. If someone wants to take the time to share their knowledge with me, I win. If it was being said passively aggressively, I would agree with you (and perhaps you've mainly experienced this interaction that way).
- edraferi 13y agoeven better: "oh, you're not familiar with X? it's actually pretty cool. it has benefits Y in situations like Z, which might be useful to you here because [...] I'll send you some links to the resources I used to learn about it. ”