If I play a tennis tournament and let's say I'm losing... I say to myself "You're not in the shower". This means that I still have control and can turn it aroun

If I play a tennis tournament and let's say I'm losing... I say to myself "You're not in the shower". This means that I still have control and can turn it around. If I'm in the shower after the match then it's over and there is nothing I can do. This is my message to myself to kick myself in the ass. So... you aren't in the shower yet. You have control. But you need to use that control and change course. Much of life is duty, and there is great honour in duty. As I'm sure you know, the devil is in the details. If you decide that this duty is worth doing, then you need to slap yourself in the face and do it. Your post is full of excuses but no real reasons. Good luck.